January 30, 2011


Me and Sex and the City 2 are enjoying NOT being single.

To all the single ladies, here’s the perennial single girl saying how nice it is to have someone pick your drunk ass up in front of the club at 2 AM and bring you to McDonalds to buy you a McChicken sandwich.

I mean, that’s above and BEYOND the call of duty. There are some things worth giving up the single and fabulous life to be not single and yet still fabulous for.

XOXO

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The Size And Shape Of Relationships

Relationships come in all different shapes and sizes and styles, like any good department store’s merchandise. Some relationships are only made to fit you for a season before you outgrow them, where as others are cut so versatilely to go from brunch with his mother to the football game with his boys. Some are itchy and uncomfortable and don’t get worn for long before they’re relegated to another home, via consignment shop, while yet others are so luxuriant and sensual that you can’t help but wearing them over and over and over again, even when it’s not an appropriate occasion. Some relationships are made to only fit one couple, while the tradition of dating seems to suit thousands, even millions, and be coveted by still others. The point is, however much we might think we look good in one particular style, no single relationship is the same as another couple’s or looks the same on the people who are in it as it would with any other person in the same equation. They’re all individual, all unique, all a wonderful one-of-a-kind piece of couture. No one can declare any sort of “relationship fashion.”

Some of us need to see the person we’re with everyday. Some people would prefer being single. Some iPhone couples run a constant chat conversation with each other, 24/7, even if they’re just in the other room. Some couples only meet once or twice a month, and still see other people. Some husbands and wives sleep in separate beds, even separate bedrooms (though the idea of sleeping in a separate bed, let alone room, sends my insomniac bed-partner-loving self into a state of panic). Some girls prefer not to call their long-term partner their “boyfriend” because it sounds childish, even though some unmarried 40 year old women love calling theirs that for the sense of nostalgia. Some couples move in together quickly, after only a month or two, while others wait until becoming engaged, or married, to share a lease. One of my friend’s fathers lived in an apartment in New York City for work during the weekdays, commuting to Connecticut from Friday night to Monday morning to live with his wife and children, whereas my mother, used to having my father around for the past 37 years, hates to spend a single night alone without him, feeling odd when he’s not there. And as I previously mentioned, I hate sleeping alone, while I always sleep the best the night AFTER whoever I’m currently sleeping with leaves. Those are just examples of 11 different relationships, and none of them can be considered a “classic.”

I’m currently seeing someone who demonstrates this point perfectly. We live in different towns, and have different circles of friends. I go to college; he works long nights. But I knew he was worth a little bit of impatience and the extra effort to see him when he kept making it a priority to see me, at least once a week, and despite of everything else. We now spend chunks of time with each other when we can; other nights, he can only make it into town for a few hours. The point is to maximize the quality of your time together— if we’re going on day 2 in a weekend of co-existion, I don’t feel bad taking an hour or two here or there to go to my class on campus or do my homework while sitting side by side with him in bed in the morning. If we’ve only got a few hours, things stay focused— we stay home, eat together, catch up, spend time relaxing and talking, and watch a movie. In between visits, we keep in touch electronically, through either text or chatting— though talking on the phone might be a more intimate ideal, I can’t help but preferring the written word mediums; I am such a writer. All in all, we get to spend about a third of every month together— 10 nights in 30, a few more days here and there. But it works perfectly for our needs— while I have time to write so I don’t miss (many) deadlines, he has time to do the things with his guys that he wants to and time to chill at home. I’m more happy seeing him when it’s possible than I ever was seeing someone frequently a few times a week who while only physically 10 minutes away in town, was light years away from me emotionally and in terms of effort and desire. It shows. I look happier. I’m dressing differently.

I’m also learning new things, one of the benchmarks of any good relationship, platonic or otherwise— the perennially Single Girl who struggles with feelings of independence when letting a guy pick up all of the tab, I’m learning how to wear the perfect balance of gratitude and grace when it’s his Amex on the counter and back account digits rolling back; how to adjust to someone else’s quirks and sleeping style and snoring and eating habits; and when to gracefully admit defeat and need of assistance and call someone to be waiting outside the front of the club for me because I am too drink, drank, drunk to get to him. I’m even learning when to take someone’s arm when offered so I can lean on it, because there is someone to lean on. And to my surprise, it’s not even cramping my “single and fabulous” style. In fact, it’s evolving to become part of myself, a newer version, this year’s It model. And it looks damn good on me.

The point is, it is not the title on the relationship or the label that you give it or each other that counts— it’s the time, effort, and emotion that you put into and get from it that really matters. Never let anyone else dictate your style, either. If you’re wearing a casual relationship when nothing but a wedding gown will do for you, you’re always going to be uncomfortable, but as soon as you find the right match and become your own designer, I’m sure you’ll find something that you can make work and will look beautiful wearing it. As Samantha once said in Sex and the City, “…The true test of a relationship is if it makes you feel like this (frowns), or like this (smiles beatifically).” Be with someone who makes you smile, if not all the time, than most of the time, and I promise you that you will always feel like the luckiest and happiest girl in the world.

Other than me, of course.

XOXO

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- From SATCG

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January 31, 2011


McDonalds. Bringing you love since Sex and the City was aired weekly on HBO.
XOXO

McDonalds. Bringing you love since Sex and the City was aired weekly on HBO.

XOXO

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This used to be the life…
…and it still is, minus the smoking.
XOXO

This used to be the life…

…and it still is, minus the smoking.

XOXO

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February 1, 2011


I love leaning into taller men on tip-toe to kiss them.
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I love leaning into taller men on tip-toe to kiss them.

XOXO

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February 2, 2011


My girly guilty pleasure. Re-runs feed my life, answer my life questions, and get me thinking and writing more.
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My girly guilty pleasure. Re-runs feed my life, answer my life questions, and get me thinking and writing more.

XOXO

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A large cup of coffee my roommate brewed for me. A snow day. Sex and the City. And no clothes.

Add a few more tangible things, subtract a few bodily conditions, and it’s my idea of the perfect day. Sigh.

XOXO

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February 4, 2011


Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.

-Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City (via theneonspectre)

I whole-heartedly believe in this quote.

XOXO

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February 6, 2011


Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with them.

- Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City (via swan-heart).

XOXO

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February 7, 2011


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"This will forever be the day known as ‘The Day I Almost Got Arrested For Smokin’ A Doobie’!"
XOXO

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"This will forever be the day known as ‘The Day I Almost Got Arrested For Smokin’ A Doobie’!"

XOXO

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Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they bring you down, and sometimes, like now, they get you so high.

- Carrie Bradshaw (via fuckyeahcarriebradshaw)

XOXO

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February 8, 2011


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Carrie Bradshaw: “I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet.”


Unfortunately, I have the same money-management system.
XOXO

xrucamour:

Carrie Bradshaw: 
“I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet.”

Unfortunately, I have the same money-management system.

XOXO

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Going Valentine’s Day shopping. Blegggghhh.
XOXO

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Going Valentine’s Day shopping. Blegggghhh.

XOXO

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February 11, 2011


One of my all-time FAVORITE looks from Sex and the City.
God, I have an obsession with over-the-knee stockings.
…In fact, I’m wearing a pair right now. Shit.
XOXO

One of my all-time FAVORITE looks from Sex and the City.

God, I have an obsession with over-the-knee stockings.

…In fact, I’m wearing a pair right now. Shit.

XOXO

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