I'm the book that beat the speed-reader, and I'm the card the dealers won't touch. And it's just not true I'm a man-eater; all the same, we should probably go dutch.
The things you pick up as you go.
Subscribe to RSS Talk To Me, Bitches AboutHipstergramArchiveBuilding & DecoratingFoodD.I.Y
I’m having a sneaking suspicion the S.O has been looking at flights to take me for a trip for my birthday. To Europe. What the FUCK am I supposed to do for HIS birthday, then?!
XOXO
1 note
Leave Note / Reblog
Couples Relationships The S.O Birthday Traveling WTF.
I turn 22 in 9 days.
When the fresh hell did this happen.
XOXO
My birthday is tomorrow?
What?
As I end up doing every year, I’m wondering when this crept up on me, and how this happened.
XOXO
…And for my birthday, there were 9 bottles of wine.
XOXO
1 note
Leave Note / Reblog
Life Birthday Drink Drank Drunk Vino
22.
How did this happen.
I also think my boobs got bigger as a special request birthday present. Not from me.
Also…I require a Ben & Jerry’s ice cream cake now, please. Thank you.
XOXO
Leave Note / Reblog
Life Birthday Twenty-Something Ben & Jerry Are The Only Men A Woman Can Trust To Give Her What She Truly Needs
Life as of late, post graduation.
XOXO
Leave Note / Reblog
La Mia Faccia Graduation Friends I Love My Boys Macro Animals Orange Vino Birthday Let Them Eat Cake!
Let me tell you a fun little story:
About 2 weeks ago (I think) I went on a date.
…That is not the funny story. Let me continue before you laugh.
So, I went on this date to one of my favorite bars in the area that happens to have a bunch of classic arcade games like Big Buck Safari and Lord of the Rings pinball and pool, so it’s basically like a sick Chuck E. Cheese’s for adults that you can get sloppy drunk at while waving an orange plastic rifle around. AND IT’S OK. That’s pretty much why I like this place. That, the fact it’s a great place to take a date to because it’s impossible to not have fun there, and if worse comes to worse and your date sucks, it’s still possible to appear as if you’re getting along for the socially acceptable amount of time for a first or second date while drowning each other out with the sound of computer-generated shotgun blasts, and the fact they have pulled pork egg-rolls, which is the work of a diabolical culinary genius.
The date was going well. He was intelligent, funny, attractive, athletic, and kind. He also told me to get whatever I wanted on the menu. Over his French Dip and my spinach and artichoke dip, we were doing the “Astrology: Real or Bullshit?” thing when it came out that he was 12 days younger than I am.
Now, I’m not ageist, but I’m a little ageist when it comes to my dating. I generally have a thing for older men. (Let’s face it: I was previously dating a 31 year old.) I like the way that my youth and hopes and dreams make them treat me like an adorable, quirky, Holly Golightly-esque character. I like the fact they don’t tend to expect much from me. But when it comes to my peers and people my own age, it’s like a pissing contest. It’s all, “We both graduated with bachelor’s degrees the same year; what are you doing with your life and $120,000 worth of college debt repayment?” I like to fling the whole “small business-owning consultant” thing around because it generally shuts people up who don’t understand that this is my way of saying, “I wake up at 11 and crack open a beer and troll Twitter and Google Analytics for awhile before watching an episode or two of “Girls” while waiting for an email from one of my clients asking me to take money from them appears in my inbox.”
What is this young whippersnapper doing? Oh, he has a real salaried, high-power job IN HIS FIELD with full benefits, a new car, and an apartment all his own with black marble floors in the kitchen and bathroom that I can see my reflection in when I lean over to blow on it from the toilet seat. AND he still manages to go partying in clubs down in Boston while he visits friends and racks up insane bills and hilarious “I was so out of it when…” stories at tailgating parties. Let’s put it another way I think we can all understand: He handed our waitress his credit card before I could even think of offering to split the check. This means that HIS CREDIT IS GOOD ENOUGH TO HAVE A CREDIT CARD. Do you know what happened to the credit card I infamously owned from 2010-2011? It was revoked from me and I ended up having to fork over the savings bond my mother had secretly put away for my future wedding when I was born to pay off my debt. I HAVE NO CREDIT. No good credit, anyway. As someone who has recently started thinking about the fact her trusty Honda Civic Mistah J may not live on forever if his oil changes keep being stretched 3,000 miles over, this has become dating GOLD in my world. Fuck a 9 inch dick. If a dude has a credit score over 650, I will consider blowing him, then marrying him.
Meanwhile, I may or MAY NOT have finally asked this guy on a date after months of online banter because I needed a night during which I did not have to see my parents/roommates and enjoy a meal I don’t have to pay for. That goes doubly for drinks.
I wake up the next morning, and the first thing I see is a closet full of perfectly ironed and hung slacks and a whole Crayola crayon box-worth of different colored and patterned button-down shirts. Loafers and other leather shoes lined the bottom of the closet. I promptly freeze, realize my “business casual” outfits consist of trying not to wear skirts so short they reveal the color and cut of my underwear and possibly wearing a blouse with a slightly modest neckline, and panic.
Toto, we ain’t in college anymore.
Fast-forward a week, and I’m tucking the fold-over waistband of what my friend Emma calls my “Those are not yoga shorts; stop calling them yoga shorts. They are Victoria’s Secret hot-pants. Those are ‘come fuck me’ shorts,” shorts while checking myself out in the bathroom of that same guy from last week when he walks in behind me to do one last check before he heads out to work at 8 AM. It’s khakis, dress shoes, linen-shirt-with-a-popped-collar central. I am not wearing socks in my little Sperry sneakers. I literally feel myself getting wet at the amount of responsibility and “Do The Right Thing”ness he exudes while at the same time looking like something GQ would find on the sidewalk. I look like something your college dorm mother would find on the sidewalk on a Sunday morning after having been locked out after curfew, complete with sex-hair and look of shame/post-orgasm glow.
Mr. “I Now Have Office Cubicle Fantasies” goes off to work. I go to a dental appointment and wonder if hygienists can identify sperm from plaque during a teeth cleaning.
Now, even the bros in “Workaholics” have a 9-to-5 job that they somehow manage to maintain. This girl? This girl? No. I am burning my ass so badly my rear end resembles a candy-cane stick or barber pole while drinking beers and eating the infuckingcredible Lays’ Dill Pickle chips that they finally brought back on a random Thursday afternoon (it was like, 12:30,) with a college friend who ALSO had nothing better to do than tan and drink on a dock with a bunch of high school kids while we bemoaned the fact we’re too old to have any idea what they’re talking about anymore.
I am REALLY going to show my age here and say that Blink 182 had it right— nobody likes you when you’re 23. Especially yourself. It’s a hard time, kids. Stay on that Van Wilder 7 Year college plan. Milk it, babies.
XOXO
2 notes
Leave Note / Reblog
Life Growing Up Birthday Past/Present/Crazy Maturity JFK Dating Makes Me Want To Die College Post-Grad Twenty-Something SATTG Truth Plans
It’s my birthday, gentlemen and bitches. I’m 23, and that’s half-way to 46.
XOXO
5 notes
Leave Note / Reblog
Birthday Growing Up Eww Life Celebrate Good Times
Sixteen was sweet. When you were 18, you bought your first pack of legal cigarettes without having to harass your best friend’s older brother to do it and a porn DVD you never ended up watching because…ewww. You don’t remember your 21st, because that’s the point. But after your 21st birthday, your birthdays can seem kind of like a drag. “Quel est la pointe?” you find yourself asking, or, you would if you were French.
Birthdays after 21 and before 40 kind of get lost in a blur of feeling like they should be just as special as the benchmarks while never really achieving anything. For this reason, I have a couple of birthday pointers for you to make them ever so much better, and to keep you from lying about your age this early in the game:
- When I was little, I was always MORTALLY embarrassed by the fact it was my birthday. I didn’t like people singing to me in public, and being in the spotlight made me uncomfortable to the point that other children’s parents always ended up thinking someone ELSE was the birthday girl at my parties. However, now, as a young woman in her twenties, I have realized there is nothing better than being on display on your birthday and making sure EVERYONE knows what today is. Free shots, discounts in stores, general compliments from strangers— these are all nice things. So own it. Walk into a place, and when it’s not an obnoxious time to do so, make sure you announce “It’s my birthday!” to the bartender, waitress, hairdresser, sales associate, or your coworkers. A birthday brightens everyone’s day, mostly because it’s very hard for an up-beat, fun, lively attitude to NOT be infectious.
- Some sort of birthday cake is ALWAYS needed. Maybe it’s a birthday cupcake or brownie. Maybe it’s birthday ice cream. Whatever it is, no one is ever so lucky they can pass up the chance to blow out some birthday candles and make a wish. Hell, I stowed away a couple candles and pressed them into a chocolaty granola bar to blow out on top of a mountain after a hike. Talk about a great moment for a wish.
- Have friends take pictures. Even if you’re slaughtered (and you should be, if your friends are doing their job right,) and they will hopefully never in a million and six years see the light of day on Facebook or your Flickr account, it’s always great to have some photographic evidence that your friends love you and y’all have a really good time together. Even if there’s just two of you together for your day, put your Big Girl pants on, tap a friendly-looking stranger on the shoulder, and say, “Would you mind taking a photo of me and my friend? It’s my birthday!”
- Here’s a list of some free and discounted food, product, and entertainment options for people on their birthday. It’s also always a good move to inquire at your local restaurants, boutiques, movie theaters, outdoor entertainment establishments, bars, or activity centers if there’s a birthday special or discount with proof (AKA: Your license). Make a list of the ones you can score in your area, and take a few friends with you for a kind of birthday freebie scavenger hunt!
- Your birthday is about YOU, getting older, realizing you’re half-way to some previously absurd-sounding middle-aged year. Because of this, it’s a great day (or weekend, or, if you REALLY want to try to milk it, week,) to do some of the things you really LOVE doing or have been dying to try. For example, for my 23rd— which is an awkward birthday because it’s not huge like your 21st and you only have two more years to get away with immature college behavior and heavy drinking before the need to grow up REALLY gets intense, for all intents and purposes can be best summed up by the specialty balloons one of my friends was given for her 23rd that said “Happy 23rd birthday, cunt. Halfway to 46.”— consisted of a morning hike up my favorite local trail to a spectacular look-out point; a trip to a local brewery for a tour, pub lunch, and great craft beer; the first swim of the season in a friend’s pond; and rounded out nicely with an impromptu off-roading adventure, which I hadn’t been on in FOREVER. It was custom-suited to fit my likes and desires— hiking and being outdoors, good beer and food, something active, fun, and a little unpredictable— and was probably my new favorite birthday ever.
Everybody tends to have a mental list of the things they want to do or try: Check out that new farm-to-table restaurant in town, go kayaking on the next nice day, get that tattoo you’ve been thinking about forever, get a new pair of shoes, etc., etc. A birthday is a FANTASTIC excuse to load your day or afternoon with these endeavors. Why not eat lunch at that new restaurant, get sufficient liquid courage in you, FINALLY get that little tattoo, and buy a pair of shoes to celebrate/for retail therapy? You really CAN make an awesome day for yourself just by stringing together a few things on your To Do wish-list. It’s as easy as that to have a birthday you’ll WANT to remember, fondly. Some things I recommend: Touring a brewery and eating/drinking there. Engaging in seasonal adrenaline sports. Eating out at a favorite restaurant. Checking out a new play/art exhibit/dance hall (remember, your birthday if about having fun and being goofy. There is no reason a museum has to be stuffy as long as YOU’RE not acting stuffy. Pose with shit). Scoring tickets to a concert or sports game. Taking a class— pole dancing? Samba? Beat-boxing?— that you’ve always wanted to and laughing your way through it.
Caveat: If you want to do any intense drinking, head out around 10 PM the night before. At midnight, when it becomes your birthday, it is socially acceptable for you and all your friends to scream, “IT’S MY/HIS/HER BIRTHDAY, BITCHES!” (Please don’t be too intoxicated already to not do free birthday shots.) Sleeping in to avoid a hangover on your birthday is a totally fine use of your “special” time.
- Birthday sex is over-rated. If you need one day of the year to indulge your fantasies, kinks, or get non-reciprocal oral sex, you probably either aren’t as comfortable with your partner as your should be, or you aren’t having enough sex in the first place. Really, asking someone to tie you up next Tuesday will be JUST as exciting, and without that sense of foreboding and obligation that the non-birthday-having participant always gets.
- And last but not least, when it’s NOT your birthday: Facebook has made it ridiculously easy to “remember” your friends’ and even casual acquaintances from that one European Lit class you took junior year of college’s birthdays, but don’t let it make you a slacker when it comes to spreading birthday love. Here’s the difference between human emotion— a guy I went on a few dates with writing a generic “Happy Birthday Carissa” on my Facebook wall, and TGIS, one of my exes (not even one I would ever consider going back to, have no lingering feelings for, and get that slightly metallic “I’m going to possibly vomit” taste in the back of my mouth when I think of ever seeing naked again) being the first person to text me a “Happy birthday (with his old pet-name for me)” ten minutes before it even became midnight on my birthday. HOW he ever remembered to do that, I don’t know. I just know it was super-impressive, and made me feel more warm and fuzzy toward him than I have in the year and a half since he ghosted on me after six months together. THAT is the power of a well-timed text versus another of the dozens of generic “happy birthday!” Facebook wall posts you’ll receive.
If, for some reason— lacking a number, not close enough to text— you CAN’T text or call someone on their birthday, for the love of God, put some effort into that wall post. “Happy Exodus-from-Uterus day!” is one that always goes over well with your guy friends. “Bitch, you’re getting old; let me buy you some wrinkle cream,” is best saved for your close girl friends or ex-roommates from college who you haven’t seen in awhile. When in doubt, a “Happy birthday; I miss doing ______ with you and I hope your day is just as wonderful/special/fabulous/amazing/awesome as you are!” is always appropriate, and just the right amount of different and personal to make it be taken sincerely.
XOXO
1 note
Leave Note / Reblog
Advice Birthday Facebook Free Shit ILoVermont Miss Manners Plans Summer Texting Tips Tricks & Secrets To Do List Twenty-Something Celebrate Good Times Life
